Ode to Superman

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 chris and shanti black and whiteSuperman.

My Godly,
perfect balance of me.

The most wonderful dad in the world.

When God created this man, He must have perfectly combined the necessary ingredients to come up with a soul mate just for me. And I don’t use the term “soul mate” lightly. He is, without a doubt, the epitome of my other half.

When we were first married, I was a wreck. I mean, I was pretty darn messed up. I had never really witnessed in depth what a healthy marriage was. I had seen the way my mom was treated by my dad and knew that I never was going to be treated that way. I was mean. I was angry. I was manipulative. But only to my husband. I suppose I knew no one else would take such abuse from me.

But, I digress. Those first 6 months of marriage were a nightmare for me, and I’m sure a night horror for Superman. We would get in an argument (usually provoked by me), and I would say, “Why don’t you just divorce me?” Poor, poor Superman. He was and is a patient man. He would assure me that divorce simply was not an option, and that I was stuck with him no matter what.

One day, Superman said something that changed my life. He said, “Shanti, you need to make a change. I’m willing to help you, but I will not be treated like this. You need to go to counseling. I’ll go with you if you want me to, but you are in serious need of help.”

No one had ever called me on my behavior before. I was a master at being the kind, bubbly, outgoing girl with everyone in my life, except for the person who was closest to me.

A few short months after that conversation, I gave my life to the Lord. I had accepted the Lord into my life years before, but I had never truly given my life to Him. And I have Superman to thank for prompting me to do so. It was his perseverance and devotion to me that saved our marriage and changed it from one of anguish to one filled with joy, love and true happiness.

Superman is wise beyond his years. He leads our family effortlessly (or at least makes it look that way). He is not afraid to take risks, in fact he seeks out ways to stretch himself so he doesn’t get complacent. He is fully devoted to following the Lord’s will for his life and will do whatever is necessary in order to accomplish that. He is not fearful of the future or uncertainties. He is confident that the Lord will provide and that whatever trials we go through are directly related to His will for us.

Through his health struggles, his devotion to our family and God has never wavered. Even though he was in despair over his health, he has always forced himself to engage with our kids, spend time with them, and has lived each day as though it could be his last with his family. I will never question where his loyalties lie.

I wish I could share this man with everyone. But since I can’t, maybe you can catch a glimpse into why I laugh nearly every day because of him:

Superman is a teacher by trade and was made to have a lasting impact on his students. He is a natural in the classroom, and he actually makes math fun (which you can probably surmise from the video above).

I love this man more with each passing year. And I really mean that. He is not perfect, but he’s pretty much as close to it as one can get.

Happy 14th anniversary to Superman, my main squeeze!

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  1. Carolyn says

    Happy Happy Anniversary! What an awesome story and congratulations–I hope you have many more years of happiness together!!

  2. Karen says

    Shanti–You know how much we love you and the hard history we’ve walked through! Praise God that He knows what is best for all of us! Congratulations on your 14 years with Chris, who is obviously God’s best for you. As my dad would say, “You married up!”

  3. Tina Carey says

    btw, I made the hulu hulu hamburgers last night and Jay and I greatly enjoyed them. I didn’t tell Jay that they were different and part of the way through dinner he said, “What did you do differently with these burgers??” I told him what was in them and he asked where I got the idea. I just smiled and said, “Guess.” The whole family knew the answer :)

  4. says

    loved this and it seems that I could tell this story almost to the letter — thank you for sharing! Happy anniversary and here’s to MANY MANY more blessed years!


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